The act of child’s learning and training starts from home and the time of before admission in school is such time of children’s life when the base of their character and feelings is laid and this is the most important time of their age.
When Allah develops a child in mother’s womb so first of all he makes his shahada finger and the completion of rest of the body is done afterwards. This shahada finger becomes the proof of oneness and also gives the testimony of Prophet’s being last messenger. The birth of human is on this faith and this is the rule of nature but after coming in world his faith gets distributed on the name of religions, groups and then the religion of fore-fathers become their religion. Nearly, it is the story before 2 years. I went to one shop. I had to buy something. The owner of shop was not there. Two children were standing. Nearly they were 10-12 years old. I asked the price of that thing from them. One child who was Muslim, said: Ask him. He don’t speaks lie. He said while pointing towards another child. That child was from Hindu religion. I kept on watching both children with shock. The child whose religion’s base was on lie, who was the one to worship false idols, he had so much belief in his false lords that he don’t speak lie in common life. Why? I kept on thinking till long time, only on this thing that why do children speak lie? What are those factors which forces them to speak lie? The children who are made to listen the voice of Allah akbar as they come in word, who are made learned the kalma as becoming mature and so the sermon of oneness of Allah is given. They are made learned to walk in light of truth and truthfulness. On moving forward, these kids get misguided by becoming victim of different problems. What is the reason? The act of child’s learning and training starts from home and the time of before admission in school is such time of children’s life when the base of their character and feelings is laid and this is the most important time of their age. Good training is also one part of faith because from right training and correct guardianship only the qualities of children’s personality become enhanced. According to scientists: “For nursing of children only to see this is not enough that every month how much increase is coming in their weight or why they don’t feel hungry. Although to see this is also important that what sort of feelings are producing in them because many feelings altogether completes the personality of one child and make their own character. These feelings play role in wonder and downfall of life of children”. These children who are the builders of future, why do they become victim of misguidance? The negative feelings and emotions which get produced in them, there is the effect of external environment in it or does his personality gets destroyed in the uncomfortable environment of home. They choose their way by themselves but what is true and what is right, they couldn’t figure it out. They sometimes take help of lying or sometime become ulcer for society by becoming delinquent. Why don’t we think that the role of parents and their thinking effects deeply on children. He is not a lier naturally instead, the feelings which completes the personality of child, in it there is specially the role of parents which effects. That is why it is important for us to know that how is the attitude of parents who are doing the training of children. Especially the role of mother is very important in making a child. Mostly mothers hit children a lot. It is also listened by mothers saying “my child has become very ill-mannered- don’t listens, or this is a torment for me. It was better to not have such kids”. And don’t know what more than say. Before saying this all, it should be thought that whether our child is worthy of these words? If yes so why? In those our own character becomes prominent. Child is the mirror of parents. It is the first obligation of parents and teachers these days that by keeping in mind, the emotional and social interests of children, do their training because unbalanced attitude and inappropriate environment becomes the reason of destruction of child. On one side, a child is provided with all luxuries and on other side one imaginary life, in which what a child wants, he don’t get it but he tells to all, to prove himself superior among his age. Children that: today I ate this all. Today I went to that place with my father or I did much shopping etc. the reason of this all is not only poverty but the ignorance of parents and leaving children on their own is the biggest reason due to which they become victim of destitute and starts living in false world from where the beginning of crimes starts. The unnecessary love and care of parents to children or destitute from it, in both conditions the children become victim of inferiority complex and superiority feeling and do different crimes. If there is disagreement between parents so then also, inferiority complex is built in children. In this condition, to make his importance accepted, he tries to find his place in outside world; he takes the support of different lies in trying to adjust in bad society of streets which turns out to be a poison for personality growth of child. With the abundance of money, children are less seen on positive way, because in this condition, child gets after all good and bad desires and commit mistakes and then to put covering on them, he takes the support of lie. On other hand, due to poverty also, a child gets into inferiority complex and becomes the liar and a big actor of crime as well, from which the parents remains unaware. In school, the unfair attitude and strictness of teaches also of teachers, forces children to speak lie because they surely speak lie to make themselves safe from punishment. Few children also speak lie to make their friends safe from punishment. Few parents to unnecessary strictness on children, instead of explaining with love, they take support of hitting, show their children clown in front of others and abuse them with this the self respect of children gets hurt and they become rude and rebellion. They take support of lie every step for their ego. This how, their future life, moves forward on the base of this lie on financial, social and political level and this is very damaging for society. To ignore this important aspect of children’s training in the social crime. It is the obligation of parents that they shall keel balanced attitude with their children, provide them with appropriate environments, judge their feelings and emotions and understand and hold their that finger of shahadah, make them learn to do the dealing of truth, which gives the testimony of unseen lord’s oneness. If this is not done so the lie will stop child to become one decent citizen and he would be criminal by taking support of lie. False society is developed by such people, to which we blame our society and evils of society but prevent to judge our own selves.
