Among us the beginning of understanding each other starts after the marriage, but if the marriage is happening in the family then people know each other before the marriage. Like this understanding each other becomes easy. After the marriage it is important for the spouses that they observe each other’s likes and dislikes, temperaments and behaviors keenly.

If the house is serene then consider that its inhabitants found heaven in this life. But if the home is turmoil then not only is this an example of hell rather apart from the spouses, children and the other members of the family also burn in this fire. The question is that how to establish pleasant relationships between the spouses so that the house may become an example of heaven and the affection between the spouses may become exemplary for others. And in this oasis how the children grow like fruit trees and become so strong that under their shadows other may sit and breathe in air of peace and serenity. If the relationship of spouses is not pleasant then their lives become miserable. Now the thing worth pondering is that a couple that starts a mutual journey with the prayers of the elders, how such grievances start between them, that living with each other becomes extremely difficult that either they have to part their ways or due to the family's dignity or by considering children as the chains of the feet even if the life is spent together, happiness goes somewhere else. And a difficult atmosphere buries the humans alive. Have we ever tried to think that why difficulties arise in matrimonial life. And how irritants enter the happy moments?

If we try to understand the reason of stiffness in marital life we see that with confidence two families and two people vow to spend their lives together and start the journey of a new life together. But this journey that started with the aid of confidence we allow to creep in it lack of trust some day. And then in stead of whittling this small pebble of lack of trust, we allow it to become a mountain. And when this becomes higher than the heads, we sit under its shadow and start crucifying the peace of matrimonial life. Is this not extremely stupid and naïve thing? Come! We tell you how to remove doubt and distrust from the hearts and live a peaceful marital life and make your home an example of heaven.

Understand Each Other:

Among us the beginning of understanding each other starts after the marriage, but if the marriage is happening in the family then people know each other before the marriage. Like this understanding each other becomes easy. After the marriage it is important for the spouses that they observe each other’s likes and dislikes, temperaments and behaviors keenly. Like this they can know that in which setting they can talk to each other in a better way. In this regard more responsibility can be attributed to the wife, because apart from being a wife, she is a daughter-in-law and a sister-in-law as well. Other than that there are quite a few relationships in which she gets tied after the marriage. That is why if she understands things about her in-laws, various new relatives and the familial atmosphere and then by acting with prudence and b acting with a little bit of forgiveness and a little bit wisdom and act with them accordingly then there is no doubt that in a few days all of the in-laws would start chanting eulogies for her. Otherwise as well the daughter-in-law has to spend life with the in-laws. That is why if she could gain their confidence, a lot of problems can be culminated.

Don't be Skeptical:

Doubt is the root of all disputes. That is why it is better that husband and wife cut the small plant of doubt in hearts before it becomes a strong tree. If anyone among the husband and wife has any doubt about each other then firstly they should not talk about it to anyone else. Secondly, they should sit together and talk it out with each other clearly. But for this they should be careful about the place and the surroundings. If you think that the temperament of the other party is pleasant then starts talking in a light manner. And complete the conversation slowly by removing the doubt from the heart. Remember that mutual empathy plays an important role in fostering mutual confidence.

Importance of Recreation:

Once in a week or so going out of the house for recreation with your spouse is a great source for developing mutual trust and love and affection. This also increases mutual confidence and sincerity. And both spouses get a chance to understand each other.

Exchange of Gifts:

If there is a festival, give gifts to each other. It is not important that the gift be extremely expensive. You should be aware of the personality of your spouse. If you are aware of the temperament of your spouse, then even a small thing will increase the happiness of the other partner manifold.

Take Care of Each Other:

Pain and pleasure are a part of life. If, God forbid, one spouse is not feeling well, then try to encourage him/her. Be wary of his/her comfort. This small thing plays a very important role in developing mutual love and confidence.

Do Not Degrade Self-Esteem:

Please remember that either it is the husband or the wife, both of them are human beings apart from this as well. And respect for humans reveals a lot about the personality of a person. That is why anyone should never consider oneself the master of the other. Rather treatment should be done on the principle of equality and tolerance in which there is the sweetness of love involved.

Consult on Issues:

If spouses keep on consulting each other then this increases mutual trust and love. We are sure that if such small principles are acted upon the life can be made easy and an example of heaven. If you do not believe then try to act upon these suggestions, you will know it for yourself.