I have always emphasized in my sermons and writings to spare sometime for your wives and families while scheduling your businesses, life and hobbies. If you do not head to it, then you will face such accidents, worries, troubles, domestic abuses and miseries that you might had never imagined them even. I have seen hundreds or even thousands of such families where the main cause of domestic unrest was the lack of understanding between the spouses. The wives would wait for the husband all day but when he arrives at home, he is obsessed with his mobile, computer or internet. It seems like he is married to these three things rather than his wife. I came across a person who said that he would go with his father before dawn to his business place and returned late at night. ‘I was not allowed to have even the weekly holiday and even on Eid day we were engaged in our business. Once I was attending someone’s funeral where my own mother saw me and said, oh! I did not know that you have grown moustaches now.’ How pity it was that they lived in the same house and the mother did not remember how his child looked like. Now what happened next? After some time his father passed away. He came to me while he had become grandfather and said that he had nine siblings but none of them is now willing to keep the mother with them…he was complaining about it and asking me if it was not unjust and unfair.. I replied, ‘No, it is quite fair and just.’ He asked me how comes it is fair and just? I replied that the mother had preferred the love for money to her own love and she did not teach them to love Allah and His beloved Prophet (صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم). She made him a merchant from the day one rather than a good Muslim. Now in return the whole family thinks the mother as a burden on them. She remained a burden until her last breath and then that burden was laid down into the grave one doomed day. This is not a single example; there are millions of similar incidents. The parents should spare some time for their children, the husbands should take some time out for their spouses. I beg to you sincerely as I know thousands of untold filthy and obnoxious stories that many of them are buried inside the graves when the perpetrators die about the domestic abuse. Dear readers! Always remember that our women demand time from us. We think that they demand just for the physical desires and fulfillment of our animal lusts. This is our mistake. You should listen to their troubles and sorrows. Spare some time for them. Do not get embarrassed while spending your time with them as it is natural that you might become angry over some of their foolishness. You need to be tolerant and listen to them patiently. It will save your home and your life will be filled with successes, happiness and blessings. Nevertheless, if you did not spare sometime for them, rather you preferred your business to them then your business may go too far but your family will be left far behind. You should think about it seriously. You do your business for your children but if your children are unable to manage your hard earned money and flourishing business and you never bothered to consider your wife as worthy of giving you a piece of advice in your business affairs then everything will be ruined. Your wife deserve to be your partner in your affairs and she should also be listened to about her daily routines and you should also share with her how you spend your stressful hours and how could you improve your lifestyle. The emotions get dead when the wives are not given due attention. Above all the tings including your business, office and all the world around you is the time that you need to spare for your wife while you spend it while gaming with your buddies, playing cards, carom, snooker or any outing activities. That generates so many quarrels, diseases, worries and troubles that may take the whole lives for them to be fixed. Then the children complain that they saw their parents always fighting and their gruesomeness affects the whole life of the children. Such society can never grow healthy youth but reaps the mentally ill-nourished youngsters and generations of confused minds. We blame the governments and our rulers for this while the fault lies in our own self. I request you to spare some time for your families. You should be at home after Maghreb or the latest by Isha. Then you should share your time with your family and spend sweet moments with them … Please remember to switch your phone off, lock out your internet and say goodbye to you TV as the TV is on one side while the wife is on the other. Each of them claims their share but it is up to you to decide who deserves more. I hope you won’t be unfair…
