For Happily married life, adopt these useful tips

Ubqari Magazine - February 2015

Like any other relation, marriage also needs some attention, for this you should set the standards of others’ responsibilities besides your own rights and for any good purpose, one should sacrifice their own principles than an happy relationship becomes stronger.

(Lubna Binte Jamil, Lahore)

No one in this world can claim to be complete. Every one has some shortcomings or some bad habit. So in matter of married life, the expectation of perfection is not correct. If you admit that your life partner is an important part of your life and he is a normal person and can make mistakes like other normal persons that make sure you have won half of the battle but if you are not satisfied on your relationship than it means that you are not accepting the realities of life. And the reason for this is your own attitude or lack of communication between you and your partner. There are some advices for you which will help you in creating understanding with your life partner and make your life easy.

Communication is necessary:

Always share your problems, feelings and desires with each other. It is good to be aware to the thoughts of each other. It is also important to improve your present and discuss the future plans. Try to find solutions of your issues by sitting together and this effort will improve your mental understanding. Now take care of this that is is important to listen like it is important to speak. You can also communicate with your life partner in silence through the language of love, attention and respect.

Do not expect much:

Making more expectations always leads towards bad results especially you will face disappointment in case when you expect such things from your husband which he cannot fulfill. So make expectations but only those which your partner can easily fulfill. Likewise try to fulfill all of your responsibilities. Be lineant with life partner and take care of his desires.

Dont be afraid of contradictions:

Some times avoiding big issues makes the arguments unwanted. So keep on making aware each other with your ideologies as hiding face never keeps you away from danger. It is also necessary to speak on contrary issues. But if there is an argument on any issue than deal it with patience and try to consider the words of your husband. Dont try to come in anger or scream or shout. Explain your views and also listen to others and find a way in between the ideas of both of the partners. Dont act in a violent way and also not tolerate such an attitude from your partner.

Do not bear injustice:

Women often bear injustice due to fear, embarrassment or shock and keep on get depression inside them. Most of the women admit that not speaking against injustice made this injustice long term for them. So do not make such mistake and dont make yourself to bear torture and do not give permission to other that he should get benefit from your silence. Do make him aware of your needs, feelings, emotions, likes and dislikes.

Give Time to each Other:

Any relation gets strong by living with each other and be with each other and love develops. Try to recall the pleasant moments and go for outing and do not waste time in complaining and cursing instead enjoy each and every moment.

Try to Trust and Respect:

Becoming more sensitive and distrustful can be poisonous for your married life. Due to such habits, those issues can come in our life which have no base. So be alert and keep your eyes and ears open always. In married life, it is important to trust and have confidence in each other. So respect your husband and trust him till you see any proof against him with your own eyes.

Try to give importance to your own desires:

For happy married life it is also important that you never ignore your own desires and little moments of happiness. Keep them with your as if you will keep on ignoring them that you can become frustrated.