Only the one who struggles truly knows that how he/she worked hard to become successful. But only he/she celebrates the success truly. The thing which is achieved after hard work gives a totally different sense of enjoyment.
If a person is not selected for a particular competition or if he/she presents something with a lot of hopes and expectations and then if it is rejected, then his/her becoming depressed or disappointed in natural. But if you use only a little bit of wisdom and think in a logical manner then you would not have to suffer from such feelings or you will achieve control over them. First of all remind yourself that you are not the first human being in the world who has suffered rejection. Or who has not been selected for something. There are many renowned personalities in the world who are quoted time and again today. They also did not go through such moments only once but many times in their lives. If we tell you only about two of them today you will definitely be amazed.
Do you know that Abraham Lincoln was selected in the army as a captain. But when he came back after war, he had been demoted as opposed to being promoted. He had been made a recruit. And he had to struggle for his rank from the beginning. After that he tried to start a business. But he was unsuccessful in that. He tried to adopt the profession of law. He could not become successful in that too. After that he entered politics. But in the matter of becoming a member of parliament he was again unsuccessful in his first attempt. He lost. Then in the matter concerning being nominated as a member of congress he was unsuccessful. After that he gave an application for the rank of commissioner. That was also rejected. He participated in the elections of senate in 1854 and got rejected. He lost the elections of 1858 and lost. During this time he wrote a letter to a friend of his and said,”I am probably the most pitiable person of this world. You can imagine how much my heart is anguished at the moment. If my sorrow is divided among all the humans equally, then perhaps on the face of earth you would not find even a single person who would smile.” But the same Abraham Lincoln at last became one of the most constitutional and historic presidents of the United States of America. The reason was very simple. His pain, sorrow and disappointment was one thing, but he did not give up on struggle. He did not put down his weapons by giving up hope.
Winston Churchill failed in his sixth grade during his school years. After coming into politics he kept on losing in every election. But at last at the age of 62 he was selected as a prime minister. After that he wrote somewhere, ”Never give up on struggle, no matter how small or large your mission and your purpose is, irrespective of whether it is important or unimportant, no matter how many times you have to face defeat, never give up on struggle. Never! Never ever!!” A similar personality has quoted that it took me 20 years to achieve overnight success.
Only the one who works hard know how he/she struggled to achieve success. But then, it only he/she who enjoys the success properly. The success that is achieved after hard work has a different pleasure. There are two ways to face the effects of loss and rejection. One is that if you have fallen down in the marathon of life, then remain fallen. The result of this would be that the world would stampede over you and move ahead. Another method is to get up with a new aim, a new resolve, and a reinvigorated spirit and join the struggle of life again. This is the best way to avenge the society too. That whatever you want to do, try to become successful in that. Whether you have to remain fallen or get up, the decision rests with you.
Improve Your Performance: If any of your pieces of work, your job application, or your projects has been rejected, it does not mean at all that you or your personality has been rejected. Your self, your personality and your abilities remain safe in their own place. Only your work or performance has been rejected. Work and performance can always be improved. After getting rejected once if you work harder and prepare well for the next time then the chances of your getting rejected decrease.
Do not Buy Rejection into Your Heart: If you have been unsuccessful in achieving something, do not blame yourself for this. neither should you conceive it as an attack on your self. These are worldly affairs and the worldly affairs have always been like this. Due to which reasons you have been rejected, it is possible that you do not have any control over them. But you have control over as to how you would react over such a loss. If you want you can become normal by thinking that all of these things are a part of life, people become successful sometimes and sometimes they lose.
Do Not Spend All the Energies on a Single Objective: If you are applying for a job, the do not develop all of your expectations with one place only. And do not waste all of your energies for that only. Rather keep in mind a few alternatives too. Like this if you would have to bear the shock of loss from one place, at the same time due to hope of success from some other place you would feel the effect of loss less severely. It cannot be said that if you are seeing one door as closed then success may be on some other path.
Maintain Your Liveliness: Liveliness is such a gift of nature due to which we have a feeling that we are enjoying the life. We value the blessing of Allah Almighty that He has bestowed upon us. And we do not consider the life as a mere liability. In fact nobody likes crying, complaining and depressed people. Despite that someone may apparently treat them with sympathy; they do not like such people. That is why try to maintain your sense of humor and liveliness. Due to this you would have a lesser feeling about the severity of the problems. And you would feel that there are many such things that could be simply laughed away. And there are many such affairs that making them a sorrow for one’s heart is simply foolish. As Muslims it is our belief that if one door closes, Allah Almighty opens many new doors. Thus, whenever one door closes upon you, try to keep yourself happy with this optimism that somewhere out there a few more doors would open for you.
